Mr. Marcus tells us how to have porn star sex!
Take notes!
2010-08-03
By Adrienne Samuels Gibbs

Half of you already know who Mr. Marcus is. The rest of you can’t admit that you know who he is. Let’s make it simple then, he’s an award-winning porn star. He can strike a pose or, er, a stroke that makes hearts swoon and directors pay attention. He’s been doing sexy stuff for over a decade now and with that kind of experience comes the ability to write a kick-ass book on sex.

Marcus, a married man and a father, penned The Porn Star Guide to Great Sex with the intent of helping those who are not yet familiar with the best practices for their sexy body parts. The manual’s illustrations are quite graphic and read like an updated, X-rated Kama Sutra with no holds barred.

Want to know how to use your hands and your tongue? Turn to page 71. Need help figuring out how to incorporate a bar stool into your sex routine? Read page 123. Want to experiment with spanking? Page 165 kicks off a lively discussion of how a man can lightly spank his lady without hurting her.

Mr. Marcus took a break from work to tell us a few more juicy secrets. Here goes.

How exactly do you have sex like a porn star? Hahaha. I think you use your imagination. And, you’re comfortable, confident and creative. Obviously I flesh that out in the book, but that’s the 30-second answer. You have got to be creative.

In order to have sex like a porn star, do I need to look like one? Look back at the 70s and 80s, we’ve always represented society. Whatever fashion, whatever form we were going through, porn was a reflection of that. I think there’s better looking people in porn now. I remember coming in around the 90s and there wasn’t a lot of really good-looking girls. But now, the girls look like your neighbors or the girl you went to school with. Now I think porn stars look more like everybody.

But doesn’t this porn sex fantasy ruin relationships?  If you want your sex life to be like a movie, and it doesn’t happen, does this book set you up for a fail? You know movies are made, number one, for entertainment. There’s a lot of acting going on. There’s makeup. There’s hair. There’s wardrobe and lighting. And on top of all that there’s acting. I tend to meet a lot of people who love their wives and have a great sex life. I think it’s because they have an openness or maybe they’re like the porn stars in that they are confident in what they can do for each other.

What can I do tonight to improve my sex life? Play a role, play a character, become somebody else make it so that you’re both playing a role. That’s what porn does well; it creates an illusion, suspends belief and lets you believe that the pizza man did deliver the pizza and the girl who paid for the pizza just happened to be horny.

How’d you get into this anyway? Curiosity. I got nine lives. I used to do a lot of blue collar stuff. I was a truck driver. I delivered furniture. I used my body a lot, but I’ve always been a thinker. In my mind I had this wild imagination going while I was driving these trucks around LA and delivering furniture to people’s house and stuff. Then, I got into porn.

I hear there are porn conventions? We do have the urban X awards, which are black oriented awards. There’s a lot more Black performers in the business and a lot more black driven movies. Before, there was no award show or any kind of way to recognize them and acknowledge their contribution. We created that. We’re going on our third year with that. It’s in Los Angeles, in the mecca.

You have two daughters? Do they know what daddy does for a living? My 14 year old, she’s probably right around knowing. My oldest has an idea, but she’s so concerned with her own life, she hasn’t really given me too much, but I know that it’s coming. In my imagination I’m going crazy thinking that maybe the guys are going to come at her differently when they learn what I do. But , when you do your job as a parent, your kids are going ot love you no matter what. The people who own Hustler and other industry people I know? They end up building these companies and their kids run them.  And, in my mind, I got my wife there to kind of balance everything out. I hope I don’t do too much damage.

What’s your wife do? She’s not in the industry and she never was. No plans, no interest. For the sake of my family I really would like to go to another level. It’s important for this book to be successful, it’s important for that [sex] discussion to begin.

Adrienne Samuels Gibbs is a senior editor for EBONY.